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30th Aug 1999 Kamal Singh @hotmail.com
hello i had a question about the society in india,having traveled to india last summer for 2 1/2 months,i simply enjoyed the country ,from villages to cities it was one of the most memorable vactions i've ever had.well living in america for 23yrs the media in general has a negative towards nonwestern countries,so my questions are,do women have little status in india and as well are they treated so bad as the usa media makes it to be.
31st Aug 1999
Niel Hirjee @cal.indiax.com
Hi! I feel that the 'status' of women in India is better than the status of women in the US or many other countries. I know about the frightening statistics of 'violations' against the farer sex in India, but please remember that society in India, broadly speaking, is still monolithic and retains its traditional values. As long as this remains so, women in India will be looked on as mothers, sisters and daughters (and at a certain level, even impersonations of divinity) rather than as objects as is often the case in the so called developed countries or as property as in certain oriental countries. While on the subject, I observe an increased number of divorced couples in the metros. Anyone else noticed this? Thank you! Regards, Niel Hirjee -- Calport Technologies Phone: +91 33 475-5884 3 Dover Road, Fax: +91 33 476-3021 Calcutta 700 019 Email: [email protected] India http://www.indiax.com/cal
31st Aug 1999
Kumar Nair @giascl01.vsnl.net.in
What happens when the Brides are burnt ????? Kumar Nair
1st Sep 1999
B Purniah @igcar.ernet.in
Dear Niel, I wholly support the view that women in India are better off than their so called "developed sisters". Reg the second point about increasing divorces, i feel that the boys/men, girls/women these days are not "educated" about the practical aspects of married relationships. expectations are too high and warped mainly due to wrong media based role models and the kind of movies/serials etc. Parents must consciously bring out the fundamentals of nurturing a relationship. purniah ----------------------------------------------------------------- Dr. B. Purniah Phone: +91 (4114) 40381 (Lab) Scientific Officer 'F' & Phone: +91 (4114) 41331 (Res) Head Design, Development Fax : +91 (4114) 40381 and Services Section Fax : +91 (4114) 40301 Materials Science Division Fax : +91 (4114) 40396 Indira Gandhi Centre for Atomic Research KALPAKKAM - 603 102 Tamil Nadu, India email: [email protected] ------------------------------------------------------------
1st Sep 1999
Niel Hirjee @cal.indiax.com
Hi Kumar, > What happens when the Brides are burnt ????? Um, ask yourself *why* they are burnt at all - because divorcing them is not easy and abandoning them is not an acceptable option in our society. Hence some unscrupulous husbands (often with the assistance of other members of their family, not excluding the womenfolk) set brides of fire and claim it was an accident. Had our society been as 'permissive' as some others, bride burning would not be necessary. It is interesting to observe that some cultures have support centers for victims, while the perpetrator of the act is not morally censured to any significant extent. Our society reacts to such situations by morally censuring the perpetrator. This is a small example of the difference in outlook between out culture and others. Women belonging to which of the two cultural groups, do you think, have a better 'status' in society? Thank you! Regards, Niel Hirjee -- Calport Technologies Phone: +91 33 475-5884 3 Dover Road, Fax: +91 33 476-3021 Calcutta 700 019 Email: [email protected] India http://www.indiax.com/cal
2nd Sep 1999
Neena P. Kumtakar @asc.ltindia.com
The real reason why brides are burnt/harassed in India is for more dowry not because divorce is difficult. If our soceity "censures" the bride-burners, then why is it so easy for a husband whose wife has died an " accidental death" to remarry again with a fatter dowry?
3rd Sep 1999
Niel Hirjee @cal.indiax.com
Hi Neena, > The real reason why brides are burnt/harassed in India is for more > dowry not because divorce is difficult. Harassed for more dowry, surely, but burnt for more dowry? Not likely. Brides are burnt because, crudely speaking, it is far easier to dispose of them in this manner than it is to divorce or abandon them and face the resultant social stigma. > If our soceity "censures" the bride-burners, then why is it so easy for > a husband whose wife has died an " accidental death" to remarry again > with a fatter dowry? Our society does censure, but in varying degrees. It is empirically evident that in our society a young widower (whose wife has died in what is claimed to be an accident) has better chances of remarriage and has better social standing than a divorcee. It is ironical that a suspected bride burner is considered the better suitor, but that is the way our society works today, and hence the fatter dowry for the bride burner. Thank you! Regards, Niel Hirjee -- Calport Technologies Phone: +91 33 475-5884 3 Dover Road, Fax: +91 33 476-3021 Calcutta 700 019 Email: [email protected] India http://www.indiax.com/cal
4th Sep 1999
B.G. Mahesh @hotmail.com
>hello i had a question about the society in india,having traveled to >india last summer for 2 1/2 months,i simply enjoyed the country ,from >villages to cities it was one of the most memorable vactions i've ever >had. Glad to hear this >well living in america for 23yrs the media in general has a negative >towards nonwestern countries,so my questions are, You should really write to the US media complaining about this. They are sure to ignore you (they have ignored me in the past) >do women >have little status in india and as well are they treated so bad as the >usa media makes it to be. > Who says that? ONLY the US media. Things are really not that bad in urban areas. Today a lady in the urban area may walk out of the house (rightly so) if she is ill treated. Infact in my school the ratio of girls:boys was 2:1 !!! In my office I have 60% women working for us. US media NEVER talks about this. In some REMOOOOOOOOTE village if one lady is harassed they will have that as HEADLINES. During your trip did you feel women were ill treated in India? I would love to hear about it. Remember that this GREAT nation had a LADY Prime Minister MANY years ago. Could you have imagined US having a lady President during Indira Gandhi times or even now?? regadrs,
5th Sep 1999
Tejinder Singh Rawal @nagpur.dot.net.in
Well said Mahesh. Tejinder _____________________________________________________________ Tejinder Singh Rawal M.Com. , M.A. ( Eco.) , M.A. ( Public Administration) , LL.B., FCA Chartered Accountant, Nagpur, India
